Friday, January 23, 2009

Why Gurus Don't Live on Mountaintops

I never pictured myself as a guru.

For one thing, they apparently spend a lot of their time at the top of very high mountains. Mountaintops tend to be chilly places and I’m not fond of temperatures below 60 F. Nice place to visit but I wouldn’t want to live there.

For another they were always male, serene and scantily clad. I’m female, serene only by extreme discipline and well come on, let’s not go there (especially not at those temperatures.) In fact, the list of why I did not strive for guru status goes on and on and gets much more serious than altitude, weather and wardrobe.

I thought I understood why gurus lived on mountaintops. It was to avoid the throngs of people who wanted to know the secret to “life the universe and everything”. It was to keep from falling victim to the ego trip of knowing you were wiser than the average bear. It was to prevent the world from squandering their hard won insights into what makes the sky blue and the wind blow. Anyone who wanted to share in the guru’s enlightenment had to pay a pretty steep price (or at least climb a pretty steep hill.)

Some of my dearest friends are gurus. Literally. Defined as “a teacher and guide in matters of fundamental concern”. And none of them live on mountaintops.

Because how do you add value from the top of a mountain?

These modern gurus act (and dress) a lot like the rest of us. They bear more resemblance to Pindar in The Go-Giver (written by a couple of my favorite gurus, Bob Burg and John David Mann) than they do to the Hindi leaders of old. What do they do with the secrets, wisdom, insights and enlightenment they have accumulated? They share it.

Like Pindar, they add value to every life they touch.

Their example made it flattering (without these role models it would have been intimidating) to be granted guru status by a couple of recent connections.

My first crack at guru status put me about as close to inhabiting a mountaintop as I want to come but it was (and continues to be) a fantastic experience. The Rise to the Top, hosted and produced by David Siteman-Garland is, as he says, "not your grandpa’s business show". (His description of a "talk show on steroids" is more on the mark.) But David packs it full of humor and solid informaton and augments it with downloadable resources that correspond to each episode. It’s fun, fast and informative!

I got to sit down with David on episode #4; Secrets to building great business and personal relationships and let him grill me about how to “grow your network by 1000%” or something unbelievable like that. You just can’t be nervous taking to David, you’re having too much fun, and he and his film crew were fantastic. They made me look and sound pretty good and then the editor took over and made me look and sound better.

(You can catch it Sunday the 25th on ABC 30 at 11AM or check out the rest of the show times at http://www.therisetothetop.com/.)

Shortly after that show first aired I started hearing myself referred to as a guru.

The next “incident” came through a blog written by Jason Thomas called The Giving Experiment. He references a coffee meeting I had with him and his friend Greg Younger and our host and catalyst for the meeting, Kevin Pannebecker. (Jason, I hope you weren’t really nervous about meeting me and that was just a wee bit of literary embellishment?) Jason has been observing and sharing his experiences in putting the Five Laws to Stratospheric Success from The Go-Giver into action. (He is currently looking to transition his career path into a sales role so if you’re looking for a sales professional who is a go-getter and a Go-Giver I suggest you give Jason a call.)

What did I learn from achieving “guru” status? That everyone is a guru!

Not only have I learned from my friends who have achieved guru status in the eyes of the many, I learn as much or more from the “secret gurus” whose worth has yet to be acknowledged. Let me give you a partial list in no particular order of the gurus who have touched my life in the last week. Some you've heard of and some you haven't but everyone of them is a guru worth getting to know.

Kevin Pannebecker, Bob Burg, Gill Wagner, Dr. William Payne, Lynne Wilhite, Chad Estes, Rachel Lapin, Wendy Gauntt, Thom Scott, Jeremy Nulik, Mercedes Bartlett, Tom Gillaspie, David Meyer, Dan Klein, Brian Schwartz, Chuck Hart, Scott Ginsberg, David Garland, Greg Younger, Lorrie Morgan-Ferrero, Bob Sommers, Ruth Binger, Tammy Dutton, John David Mann and Jason Thomas. That’s right, everyone of these people contributed to my success in just the last week!

We all have knowledge and expertise to share. We all have secrets, wisdom, insights and enlightenment that we have accumulated.

Which means we all have the ability to add value to all of our relationships. And that is the first step on the path to stratospheric success!

Put your best foot forward (actually either foot will do just fine), you can reach stratospheric heights and “rise to the top” without ever setting foot on a mountain.

7 comments:

  1. What Dixie humbly fails to acknowledge -- or, perhaps, merely doesn't recognize -- is that gurus attract other gurus, and she is a serious guru magnet.

    Simply put, Dix has more natural intuition about people than any human I've ever met. To that natural ability she has added a lifetime of studying and practicing personal growth, and a suite of tools (like the Kolbe assessment she uses with all her clients).

    And she's a natural giver to boot -- which explains why she loves "The Go-Giver" so much.

    Bottom line: This mix of ability, experience, systems and attitude makes Dix a tour de force in the personal improvement world -- and that is exactly what has attracted me (I'll bet all of us) to her.

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  2. I LOVE being a guru magnet. And I love seeing people discover what makes them a guru!

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  3. My Dear Dixie,

    What an honor to be so cited — and in great company! I second Gill's comments, and truth be known, Gill is no slouch himself. :)

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  4. As a guru, as a friend, as a trusted confidant and as a representitive of the finer things in human nature - neither you nor Gill could ever be called a slouch. There is a reason you showed up in the same list; you share a number of my most prized attributes.

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  5. Dixie, I agree with Gill, and I agree with John who agrees with Gill, and I imagine that soon someone else will agree with me who agrees with . . . well, you know what I mean. :-)

    Seriously, Dixie, you are a blessing to all of us who've had the honor and pleasure of knowing you and being a part of your world. You're a great friend and teacher, and you add significant value to every life you touch.

    If I liked the word "guru" and actually ever used it in a sentence, I would definitely and absolutely say that you are one of my gurus!!

    Thank you for all you are and all you do.

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  6. Titles and terms aside - when you define a guru as a teacher and guide in matters of fundamental concern then you are a guru of tremendous stature to me and to many others.

    Repeat after me - "I am a guru because I have a lot to share and I am actively engaged in sharing it."

    There - the mystique vanishes and only the substance remains!

    Because titles and terms aren't important but the substance is vital.

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  7. And that, Dixie . . . is only one of the many reasons why we love you.

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